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Bonnie Radcliffe's avatar

A horrific experience, and still so much eloquence in your recounting of it. If you add a tip jar I’d love to support your work when I can - I can’t do regular subscription at the moment but would love to leave some kind of marker for my respect and wonder!

Caro Giles's avatar

Ah it’s enough for you to comment and share. I really appreciate that x

Ruth Brookes's avatar

I feel this is my bones. The tight breathless knot of panic and fear, attempting to appear calm to the world.  A few months ago my eldest autistic daughter - mid 20s & a classroom TA - had a no fault eviction from her tiny flat just round the corner from our home. Destroying all her carefully balanced support and energy regulation, held together by us & sheer force of will. Stealing her safe space. A month on from moving her into a new home, it’s still hard to breathe. Meltdowns and sleeplessness don’t just disappear. My heart feels bruised. How do we exist in the world knowing that other’s decisions can so simply dismantle the tiny worlds of calm & safety we try to build for ourselves and our kids? So glad you’ve had a reprieve from the wolf at the door. But the fear doesn’t just go, does it. Much love x

Caro Giles's avatar

I’m sorry Ruth. It really takes its toll doesn’t it. Sending love to you all xx

Clover Stroud's avatar

Caro thinking of you a lot. Hope i can see you in July CXXXXXX

Caro Giles's avatar

Thanks love me too x

Clare Skelton-Morris's avatar

Empty words but Glasgow holding out her arms for you x

Caro Giles's avatar

I do feel this xx

Sue Morón's avatar

Really sorry you've been through such a wringer

Caro Giles's avatar

It’s been pretty rough. Thanks for your lovely comments xx

Polly's avatar

You condense a terrifying and terrible experience into some beautiful and heartbreaking writing. Sending you all a big hug

Caro Giles's avatar

Thanks Polly x

Jo's avatar

Huge exhale, and this is just me reading this Caro. I really can’t fathom these systems purporting assistance. So glad you have a bit of breathing (literally) space and so grateful for your sharing of this. Sending much care to you all

Caro Giles's avatar

Thanks Jo. It’s knocked me a bit but on we go xx

Leah McLaren's avatar

All decisions are economic and economic problems wipe all the others off the board — apart from health. I have been where you are. So many of us have. It’s a humiliating and isolating experience but you are absolutely not alone in it and you have done nothing wrong. Keep going. Bet on yourself and on love. Your girls are in good hands. Faith ❤️❤️❤️

Georg Cook's avatar

Thinking of you, as you navigate this part of your journey. Holding you and your family in my thoughts 🩵

Rewilding Neurodiversity's avatar

Phew! I’m glad you got the outcome you needed 😬good luck with the house hunt. The state pretends to care but it simply doesn’t. some of the people care, but the cogs as you so well describe are cruel